There seem to be few times that we pause to think of why we do what we do. Of course in the few moments of insight that we have every now and then, we seem to ponder on the purpose of it all (discussed in short in "Of Birth and Death and the Screw Up in Between"). But the moment passes and we go on about our mundane tasks. Living on the way we always have. Without any real concern as to where it might all lead us. But then is there a reason behind our actions?
If you think real hard, there is one basic principle driving each and every action that you take. A very simple reason too. The reason is the ever selfish nature of man. The few times that I have discussed the topic with a few friends of mine, I have received a very common reaction to he word 'selfish'. For the sake of completeness, let us define the word here although I am quite sure that all of us are well aware of the meaning. Looked up in http://dictionary.reference.com/ the word is defined as:
self·ish [sel-fish]
–adjective
Custom has made us associate the word with a negative aspect of character. I beg of you to shun the custom for a few minutes and look at the word objectively. All it says is that selfishness means putting one's interests first. I would like to restate the reason of action:
The reason that we do anything is because of our selfish nature to remain happy.
It would be terribly hard to nail the fact in a customary way. A better option would be to look at the possible counter arguments.
The very first of them would be that not all our deeds are selfish. All of us occasionally lend a kind helping hand to the needy. But then my friend, it is just because the kind deed that you do makes you happy. Gives you a sense of self satisfaction. I could go around ignoring all the needy in the world but then i would suffer from a nagging conscience. The reason I give money to charity, the reason I work in NGO's, the reason I support PeTA, the reason I advocate vegetarianism, the reason for all I do is because I want to be satisfied that I did something "good". The reason is my satisfaction. MY. Selfish.
Selfish reasons were why taggy commented that my blogs were pseudo intellectual crap. Selfish reasons are why I am replying [:)] asking what determines intellect anyway?
Another very common example that I have faced of un-selfish gestures is that of a mother giving birth to a child. Rubbish I say. The reason that the mother is bringing the child to life is because she wants to be a mother. Or because she wishes to oblige the person who wants to be a father, or a grand-mom, or a grand-dad. In any case, I doubt she is doing it just because a non-existent foetus with non-existent feelings and wants, wishes to be born. All is done for selfish reasons. Even if I jump in front of a bus to save someone, and possibly lose my life in the process, I would do so because just before I make the leap, my mind would bear the fact that this act would be something that would keep me satisfied, would keep me happy.
Its all me. Starts with me, ends at me. So? What is the point of realising that homo-sapien is a selfish species? Probably none. But you could shun the hypocrisy and and lead a straighter life. One where you do everything to please yourself, without setting the false pretense of doing it for the sake of others. Without inhibitions of the views of the society. But then again, maybe it is the hypocrisy that keeps you happy. After all is not selfish happiness all that we are aiming for?
I would welcome any instance that any of you can think of that is un-selfish in your views. But pray do think hard as to what it is being done for. You will find out yourself that it is your own happiness that makes you do it. Nothing else.
If you think real hard, there is one basic principle driving each and every action that you take. A very simple reason too. The reason is the ever selfish nature of man. The few times that I have discussed the topic with a few friends of mine, I have received a very common reaction to he word 'selfish'. For the sake of completeness, let us define the word here although I am quite sure that all of us are well aware of the meaning. Looked up in http://dictionary.reference.com/ the word is defined as:
self·ish [sel-fish]
–adjective
| 1. | devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one's own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others. |
| 2. | characterized by or manifesting concern or care only for oneself: selfish motives. |
Custom has made us associate the word with a negative aspect of character. I beg of you to shun the custom for a few minutes and look at the word objectively. All it says is that selfishness means putting one's interests first. I would like to restate the reason of action:
The reason that we do anything is because of our selfish nature to remain happy.
It would be terribly hard to nail the fact in a customary way. A better option would be to look at the possible counter arguments.
The very first of them would be that not all our deeds are selfish. All of us occasionally lend a kind helping hand to the needy. But then my friend, it is just because the kind deed that you do makes you happy. Gives you a sense of self satisfaction. I could go around ignoring all the needy in the world but then i would suffer from a nagging conscience. The reason I give money to charity, the reason I work in NGO's, the reason I support PeTA, the reason I advocate vegetarianism, the reason for all I do is because I want to be satisfied that I did something "good". The reason is my satisfaction. MY. Selfish.
Selfish reasons were why taggy commented that my blogs were pseudo intellectual crap. Selfish reasons are why I am replying [:)] asking what determines intellect anyway?
Another very common example that I have faced of un-selfish gestures is that of a mother giving birth to a child. Rubbish I say. The reason that the mother is bringing the child to life is because she wants to be a mother. Or because she wishes to oblige the person who wants to be a father, or a grand-mom, or a grand-dad. In any case, I doubt she is doing it just because a non-existent foetus with non-existent feelings and wants, wishes to be born. All is done for selfish reasons. Even if I jump in front of a bus to save someone, and possibly lose my life in the process, I would do so because just before I make the leap, my mind would bear the fact that this act would be something that would keep me satisfied, would keep me happy.
Its all me. Starts with me, ends at me. So? What is the point of realising that homo-sapien is a selfish species? Probably none. But you could shun the hypocrisy and and lead a straighter life. One where you do everything to please yourself, without setting the false pretense of doing it for the sake of others. Without inhibitions of the views of the society. But then again, maybe it is the hypocrisy that keeps you happy. After all is not selfish happiness all that we are aiming for?
I would welcome any instance that any of you can think of that is un-selfish in your views. But pray do think hard as to what it is being done for. You will find out yourself that it is your own happiness that makes you do it. Nothing else.
11 comments:
Going in to technicalities are we. Same roads different surroundings, with a special forever unknown conclusion.....
Selfish- devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned primarily with one's own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.
Let me copy this again with a slight difference.
Selfish- devoted to or caring only for oneself; concerned PRIMARILY with one's own interests, benefits, welfare, etc., regardless of others.
Scentences -
1. That guy (picture someone great) is an unselfish being.
2. I guess I am a little selfish at times.
3. You are blinded by your selfish desires, to not see the poor and hurt.
Hellz YEAH!
Every damn action is because somebody or something is benifitted from it.
But being selfish ..... lets PRIMARILY putting your interests first. This is the whole reason the contemporary times regard being selfish as it does. Helping PeTA or WWF,CRY .... recycling stuff.... jumping in front of busses for that matter...... are all in our interest in some way or another. But regarding them as selfish activities is kinda going over the hem.
Jumping in fron of the damn bus is actually going to save somebody else, which is the primary motive of the whole action.....
Helping CRY and others ... the primary motive is to HELP.... and not self satisfaction. It is to some extent a motive.. but selfish... maybe not....
Jump ... bus ... save.. push the person off the road.... get hit.... and CRAP the person fell rite there coz of the push.... so I guess a total waste.....
Selfless nature tried to help.... destiny took em somewhere else.... that is how I see it.....
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Above stated scentences are my opinion (take) on the blog entry....
Have a goood one :)
But then that is exactly what I expected... Try looking at the word "selfish" a little differently and you will come to see what I try to say here. Any act that is done to please oneself <- selfish.
When you jump infront of the bus, the primary interest is serving your own conscience (<- selfish) and you do so by saving the person infront of the bus (and sacrificing your own sorry ass instead :P )
What I am trying to point out is that everything, absolutely EVERYTHING, that we do is a result of the necessity to serve oneself.
For our own happiness, to serve our own self, for the satisfaction of our own nagging conscience.
Coming back to the same boring example, I could have lived like always without saving the poor chap infront of the bus. But then my 'self' would have regretted it. If only for a while, and I would have portrayed myself in my dreams as Superman rescuing the kid.
Now i wouldnt want that. That would be gay. I mean red undies!!
Anyway, i hope you get my point...
...and agreed!
well pondering over your ideas on selfishness again and again i figured
out that the examples of selfishness given in a more positive sense of course are nothing but examples of altruism.
Altruism is primarily concerned with doing good or having a motivation to do good without expecting anything back.
you might point out tht there is a self satisfaction involved....
let me sight an example
if a zebra sees a lion approaching it....it makes sure it alerts its herd even if it knows tht it is going to die in the process....so if its self really doesnt remain where is the satisfaction involved.
that and many other examples of actually putting your life in risk for the betterment of their living...
biosciences tend to explain this as
an unconscious behaviour of the animal only for the benefit for its
species....to propagate the best of genes etc.
now is tht a selfish satisfaction???
wht i wish to point out is tht u try to potray all activities of living for others to be only living
for oneself in terms of gaining some benefit or the other....
the reason why probably the society
focuses on negativity of selfishness is tht if each person starts thinking tht the whole idea of doing good or doing bad entirely
depends on how much benefit in terms of satisfaction we gain out of it....if tht ultimate truth of the world is taken tht lightly...i am sorry to say there is gonna be some haphazardness--i fear
Aggie, dear Aggie...
First of all, let me make it clear that I am talking of man, homo sapiens, only. Man is an indivisualistic creature dear, not a herd animal. Albeit my ill informed self, I will try to comment a little on the biological angle that you just put forth.
"let me sight an example
if a zebra sees a lion approaching it....it makes sure it alerts its herd even if it knows tht it is going to die in the process....so if its self really doesnt remain where is the satisfaction involved."
Well, our dear mother nature has obviously put a lot of thought in the creation of this world. The preys are usually seen to exist as herds and are bestowed with a "group behaviour" that is to the benefit of the entire herd. We all know how little intelligence exists in the lower animals (the exact reason why they are lower and havent had an industrial revolution of their own) therefore I am afraid I cannot totally digest the notion that the zebra warned its herd because of its altruist nature!
And talking of altruism and selfishness, its just playing with words. There are several words out there with no actual reflection in the "real" sense. And I do see that my usage of the word "selfishness" has caused all the confusion. Do try to see what I am trying to convey by the word.
"the reason why probably the society
focuses on negativity of selfishness is tht if each person starts thinking tht the whole idea of doing good or doing bad entirely
depends on how much benefit in terms of satisfaction we gain out of it....if tht ultimate truth of the world is taken tht lightly...i am sorry to say there is gonna be some haphazardness--i fear"
Exactly what I meant. The society is trying to tame you into its ways. And as for the haphazardness, there is already enough of it, it couldnt get any worse. :)
We all act on our urge to please ourselves, only, we dont admit it.
i see a nice little debate going on here....
but i dont understand why you all dont get the essence of the origin of this thought!!
its plain and simple and according to me..
very very interesting side of the meaning of this word!!
and yes... it is this kinda thought that can get you answers!!!
not jus reasoning against anything and everything that .. i wud rather say.. sounds a little unorthodox!!
coming to think about it...
this debate shows how deep the negative side of the word has gotten into us...
i mean..sounds more like ppl are kinda selfish about a person who can think out of the box!!!
-Vamsi
Well, I consider it reasoning without objectives..... my response was to the thought... and not to any other kind of notion which led to the thought...... not thinking about stuff would not have led us to this debate and kage to that thought.... in my opinion thinking makes things worse... being blatantly ignorant to some school of thoughts helps maintain peace... which I think is not too big a deal I cant afford..... thinking outside the box has made heroes... Newton and such... and then there are the darker kind of heroes who wander off in to hurting themselves... finding answers to questions unacceptable to the society... eventually they get thrown off.... you never know the names... but I guess I am way off the topic of discussion over here...
to summarize.... thinking out of the box is always appreciated... and people should hope it does not conclude to self destruction...
cheers!
Hello!
I am an acquaintance of a friend of yours :) .. heard of the blog from her
Hmm. Don't you think it's unnecessary to talk of selfishness etc? What purpose is it serving ? Does your essay clarify any confusion or anyone else previously had?
Does discussing the point of selfishness bring any change in the real world? I mean, if I give money to charity because I want to feel happy or because I am truly altruistic(!),what difference does it make ?
And btw, I have a suggestion ...can you change the the black background ? Its kind of melancholic :)
In reply to moulik:
Appreciate your interest in the matter, or rather the disinterest in this matter... :)
Well, the entire point of discussing it all is to try to think. That is it. We have a brain that outdoes all the other varieties of brains on the planet combined...(aggie dont use your bio to outsmart me here.... :P)
But really, if you are always looking for a conclusion, you are missing out on all the marvels that your brain is capable of... Read the post "Excerpts ..." for more on the same topic...
My essays are not meant to clarify confusions.. They are meant to invite discussions and think, philosophise. The world does not change however hard you might try. Nature is absolute, will remain so. Humans just try to believe otherwise...
As for if it really matters whether you are altruist or just happy to donate, it makes no difference at all. But then the search for the "self" has always held its charm....
And your suggestion is duely noted. I will heed to it someday when I am not this busy.
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